by Rebecca Townsend, with Andy by my side

There are seasons in every marriage that don’t come with fireworks or slammed doors.

They come with small silences.

With glances that don’t quite meet.

With the ache of almost.

Almost reaching for a hand.

Almost asking for what you need.

Almost say...

The Season We Called Pause Instead of Goodbye
by Rebecca Townsend, with Andy by my side

There was no dramatic moment.
No slammed door.
No bags packed in a rage.

Just a quiet, painful breaking.
And a hard realization that the space between us had grown too wide to cross with good intentions and fiv...

When your calendar is full, but your connection is gone - it’s time to rethink what you’re really building.

by Andy Milligan, with Rebecca by my side

I missed it.

I was blind-sided when I was asked to move out. Before I knew how to describe my emotions - color me confused, angry, frustrated, a...

When I Was Too Tired to Reach and He Didn’t Know How to Find Me 

by Rebecca Townsend with Andy by my side

There was a season when I’d come home and stand in the kitchen like a ghost.

Not angry. Not distant on purpose. Just… emptied out.

It started during the hardest health season of my lif...

Olympic National Park, August 2025

Last weekend, The Engineer and I hiked through Olympic National Park. The trees were ancient, wiser than us by centuries.

Many stretched skyward. Others had splintered, their trunks hollowed by time and storm.
But even in their falling, they gave shelter.
Shade....

By Rebecca Townsend, with Andy beside me

How I learned to receive what I didn’t know I needed.

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I always thought I wanted a safe love.

Until I found it—and realized I didn’t know how to receive it.

Not at first. Not consistently. Not without wondering what I was doin...

By Rebecca Townsend, with Andy beside me in the becoming

A Manifesto for Overfunctioning Couples Who Want Something Real

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I didn’t become a therapist because I had it all figured out.

I became a therapist because pain felt familiar—

and helping other people quieted t...